Safer Space Guidelines
About the guidelines
Feminist Culture House works towards making all of the spaces we initiate and work in as safe as possible for everyone involved. We will do our best to facilitate safe and respectful conversations, and wish to acknowledge that safety is a group effort and the responsibility of everyone present in a space, be it physical or online. We are responsible for the events we organise, and individuals joining should take responsibility by reading these guidelines and actively following them.
We understand safer spaces as sites of learning, which means that when problems arise or people make mistakes, we pause to acknowledge and mediate the situation collectively or in one-on-one conversations. However, if someone refuses to take note of their harmful words or actions and to change their behaviour to align with the guidelines, we will ask them to leave the event. Please note that we are also constantly learning, so we will for sure fail at times. Please point this out to us when it happens, or call us in later. We also hope that you will notify us if you have any comments or suggestions regarding these guidelines.
The FCH safer space guidelines
Everyone present should be treated equally and respectfully, with kindness and compassion.
Respect others’ boundaries. Give space and do not touch anyone without asking first. Do not take photos without asking people first. Always respect the answers you get when asking about these things.
Check your privileges.
Try to be conscious of the space you take, and the positions from which you speak. Give others the chance to express themselves.
No violence, harassment, or discrimination of any kind (racism, sexism, ableism, classism, homophobia, cis-sexism. . . No body commentary.
Don’t assume that you can tell a person’s gender, sexual orientation, life situation, identity, health status, background etc. without them telling you. Respect peoples’ wishes to disclose or not disclose information about themselves.
Take criticism and analyse your behaviour. Unlearning harmful ways of thinking is a lifelong project that we all have to undertake. Understand that we all make mistakes, we’re all learning, and stay with the discomfort this brings—this is the way forward. Apologise and do better next time.
Let’s remember that often we are on the same page, even if we’re not using the same words. Language is constantly changing, and we should all try to keep up, and pause to discuss terms when needed. Respect the words people tell you to refer to them with, and take note when someone calls you in on your language.
Let’s acknowledge that aiming for a feminist future means working on structural changes—knocking down systems instead of individuals. However, this work is often emotional and requires tapping into personal resources and experiences. Let’s work together to recognise the systems and structures that need changing, and listen and respect each other in the process.
Let’s take breaks, breath, have a drink of water.
Let’s always remember “sorry” when needed.
If you encounter harassment, discrimination, threats, or other problematic situations, contact the designated safety persons.
If you experience anything unpleasant, you can either inform the facilitator, the safety person, or your representative from the Feminist Culture House. You can do this during the event or after, which ever feels more comfortable for you (firstname.lastname@example.org).